Tuesday, October 17, 2006

Can a woman do what a man does and still remain a "Lady?"

I was listening to an old school RnB song recently when I heard the statement, "A Woman can't do what a man does and still remain a lady." I thought this was a very profound statement coming from the female singer of the song. Currently, we are living in the days of the empowered and independent woman. I think both of these are great. I think it is cool that women or shall I say, "Sistas are doing it for themselves." As a man, I appreciate the today's female's earning potential. You see. This means that as an independent woman who may think she does not need a man because of the amount of money she makes or the socio-political strides she is making these days, I don't have to pick up the check at dinner. LOL !! Just playing, ladies. Well.....maybe not.

The race is still on for equality, which I think is cool too. However, I just want women of today to be prepared for the outcome or consequences once they sign up for a particular race against men.I will just skip the formalities and get straight to the point. Today’s women from age 18 to 58 are still attempting to compete with men in the bedroom. Meaning, women don't want to accept the double standard as it relates to sex. A man can sleep with as many women as he likes in his lifetime and still end up with a decent, wholesome woman that loves him and respects him as a man on his wedding day. If a woman is known to have slept with 5 men in five months, she is known as a tramp, easy, a slut, and even a whore. Now, I know this sucks, but it is the reality.

No self respecting man would seriously date and even mary a woman that has been ridden more times than a horse at a rodeo. A woman that has been labeled looser than shoe laces on a two year old has less of a chance of finding a decent and wholesome man to stand beside her on her wedding day. She would more than likely have to move out of her present city in order to get a fresh start at being looked at as a decent woman by unsuspecting suckers in her new city or state of residence.I would even go so far as to say that a man can have children and still end up with a good woman. A woman with two or more children out of wedlock is lucky to find any man that would look past the "evidence" of her trifling ways. These are not my words. I am just repeating public opinion.

A woman's stock drops after every child she has out of wedlock. So, it would be in her best interest to stop at one child if she plans to nab Mr. Right. Single women with more than one child usually end up with a lot of Mr. Right nows. There aren’t too many men out there that take these women seriously. However, the sex is off da chain!! They are usually prime candidates for a man's sexual release and enjoyment.A man with more than one woman or child is looked at by a lot of women as the man to snag. Women see him as having something special in his pants that they must discover and even attempt to conquer. It is sick, but it is a reality for many women. So, the question remains. Can a woman do what a man's does and still remain a lady?