Sunday, May 26, 2013

Is single motherhood a choice?

I have a question.

Does anyone believe that single motherhood is a choice that does not have to be made by so many single women?

Let me go little farther. For years, I have heard a lot of single women with children either complain about being single mothers and scream about how hard it is to juggle work, school, and raise the children all on their own or many of them expect some award or "special blessings" for being a single mother. If I am not mistaken, when a woman gets married first and then has children by her husband, she not a single mother, she is a wife. However, in the case of a divorce, the couple splits, she is still not a single mother (In My Opinion).  If a husband dies during the marriage, this (in my opinion)would make her a legitimate single mother.

I guess what I am saying is if she a single woman and decides to get pregnant by a single man out of wedlock, what is the crying all about? This (to me) sounds like this single woman chose to become a single mother rather than a wife and therefore should not be complaining about the consequences of her choice. Let me be clear. There are plenty of women who make this choice (becoming a single mother out of wedlock) and you don't hear a peep out of them. They "woman up" accept the responsibility of the choice they made in becoming a single mother and they "keep it moving." What is it that these women understand about choices and consequences of choices that so many others who have made the very same choice, but instead of "woman-ning up" they bitch and moan about the consequences of said choice? I am always scratching my head at this one.

Finally, I am not coming down on single mothers. There are plenty of single mothers out here who have done what they were supposed to do as it relates to being parents in the children's lives that they decided to bring here. I am just asking a question and trying to make sense out of why people touch hot stoves when the BIG SIGN stuck on the stove reads, "Please do not touch this stove. It is very hot." but then turn around and cry and moan about the stove being hot. SMDH!!

I have an announcement to make.

In light of the recent "coming out " of the Black NBA player from the Washington Wizards and the positive feedback that he has received for finally being truthful to himself and to the world about who and what he really is as it relates to his sexual preference, orientation and even choice, I can no longer sit in silence and live in secrecy about who and what I am. I am encouraged that I will be received with just as much love and support from the Black community and the world and I just know that I, too, will be featured on the cover of many major magazines as well as featured as a guest on a many daytime talkshows after I make my announcement to the world. I am nervous because I just don't know what I am going to say when the President of the United States interrupts his tedious job of  taking care of the business of running the country just to give lil ole me a call to express to me how proud he is of me for "coming out" with my truth to you all today. I am nervous because I don't know who is going to call me to pen a book on what it took for me to finally break my silence after all of these years about who and what I am. Its just so much to look forward to.

Ok. Here it goes. My name is Rico Rivers. I am a Black man. I am a college graduate. I don't have any tattoos. I don't have a criminal record. I don't have any children out of wedlock. I am not a Christian. I don't go church. I don't eat beef or pork. I have never dated outside of my race. Finally, I am a HETEROSEXUAL! I have never experiemented with gay or bi-sexual sex. Again, did I mention that I was Black man? WOW! It felt like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulder. I guess now all I have to do is sit by the computer and read your comments of love and support as well as sit by the phone to wait for the President of the United States to make that call to express his "pride" in my finally being true to who I am. Hmm, I don't think he has my cell number. Mr. President, here is my cell. 972-854-9497. I will be waiting, Sir.

The attack of the WHACK singers continue in RnB.

A second Wig, I mean WHACK (White trying to be Black) fake RnB singer has hit the radio with his latest attempt at RnB music after Justin Timberlake. Robin Thicke has returned with an attempt at RnB music using the same formula as Justin Timberlake which is get a Negro producer and in this case its not Timbaland, its Pharrell of the Neptunes. Next, get a Negro rapper, which in this case it is not Jay-Z, its TI. Robin Thicke took it a bit further by using a sample of an old Marvin Gaye soul song, "Got to Give It Up." Still, eventhough Robin Thicke a is WHACK (White trying to be Black) Rnb singer, I can take him over Justin Timberlake anytime. At least Robin Thicke appears to be more appealing to the Black listening audience. Hey,  I could be wrong. However, that damn Justin Timberlake is a real Aryan, Mickey Mouse Club, NSync, Boy band white boy who is just slumming around Negroes for kicks. You see.  Moreover, Robin and Justin have the luxury of being Caucasian in radio with all the benefits that come with it. Let me explain further. Justin Timberlake and Robin  Thicke get radio airplay on ALL of the radio stations with their music (Black and white radio stations). In order for actual RnB singers like Neyo, Chris Brown, Usher, and Eric Roberson, Ledisi, Jill Scott, etc to get  cross over air play, they have to change their sound and even their image to fit the white, pop and even dance audience while white WHACK singers like Justin Timberlake and Robin Thicke get played all over the place without having to change their sound or look. Being white is enough for them. The actual Rnb singers get a few spins on the old school RnB stations where young Black music listeners rarely venture. Hmmm, I wonder why. I read a book back in college years age called, "Culture Bandits" that spoke about these current bleaching trends in RnB music in which the RnB would go through a complete blackout and people like Justin Timberlake and Robin Thicke would be viewed as the look of RnB music. Black faces will be completely wiped out in radio in the images in the videos. Does anyone remember Jazz or Blues music? Damn. They took those too? Watch out Black rappers. Eminem is going to return soon to reclaim his thrown as the number one rapper/Hip-hop artist.