Sunday, June 15, 2014

Happy Father's Day! 2014

Happy Father’s Day! 2014

The annual father’s day wishes are being shared by all those who choose to recognize the men in the world who have been fathers in the lives of their children. I want to send out a special Happy Father’s Day to my, brother, Eric Rivers. You know. I have watched him for the past 18 and a half years not just be a father, but a PRESENT father in his children’s lives and “By Any Means Necessary.” So, should I decide to ever become someone’s biological father, I will have a pretty good source of examples to pull from whenever I may need it. I wish that a lot of men could follow his example of “saying there” even when it gets tough. “Staying there” even when you may feel that you can’t do it anymore for whatever reason. My brother understood that when he decided to participate in the impregnation of his then girlfriend and now wife of many years, THAT HE WAS GOING TO BE THERE.


In the last couple of days, I have been checking out the various stories on Facebook that have been attempting to minimize the importance of fathers in this country, most specifically Black fathers. There is a Mahogany greetings card created and being distributed by Hallmark that is floating round on the internet that says, “For You Mom. Happy Father’s Day.” I guess this is an effort to reach out to the single mothers. Hmm, I thought this is why we have Mother’s Day. Mahogany Cards is the African American division of the Hallmark Cards company. This means that Hallmark has gotten in on the practice of celebrating illness of black single motherhood and the same time making a profit from this purposefully designed system of destroying the black family. Please, let me know if you were in WalMart, Walgreens, or Kroger today buying a Father’s Day card and you noticed a greetings card that was not a Mahogany card dedicated to single white, Asian, or Hispanic women.


The saddest part about this whole thing is that a lot of Black single mothers today who were never MARRIED to anybody when they got pregnant and gave birth to any child they have, have the audacity to believe that they are special. They actually agree with Mahogany dedicating Father’s Day cards to them on a day that was not designed for them. Father’s Day is for men who have children. Father’s Day is gender specific, just like Mother’s Day. When was the last time you heard of any man of any race tout themselves as being father and mother to their children? However, I am happy to share that a lot of sane women have been putting these insane, ego driven, attention starved women in their proper place in regards to this issue.


Is it me? Or does Father’s Day seem to not possess the same fanfare as Mother’s Day? I have noticed this trend (agenda) in America. Fathers are very needed in the households to add emotional and mental balance in children. If the man is not in the household, he still needs to be in the child’s life if he is a man who is trying to be in the child’s life. I never had a father in my house growing up, or in my life. However, I was fortunate enough to see images of father figures growing up. Even if Father’s Day does become a day that is celebrated by society, it will not take away from the importance of having a father in the child’s life. Divorced ladies, I get it. Many of you have been rearing children alone after the divorce because the husband decided that since you and he are divorced, he and the children are divorced and he moves on without all of you. I think that’s horrible. I will never understand how any man could leave their child because he and the mother (wife) are done with the marriage or relationship. It is almost non-human in nature.



Finally, I know that there are a lot of good black men who are in the lives of their children. Recent statistics point to this fact. As a matter of fact, these same statistics point to the reality that black men are more active in the lives of their children than men of other race and ethnicities.    I am happy that I am a person who has never been one who could be herded like sheep when it comes to the lies and stereotypes that other people place on the backs of black men. However, I am not saying that I am not aware of the large number of men who volunteer to leave after he has laid his seed in the female he just had sex with that night. This behavior is cause for another blog post. However, tonight I want to focus on the wonderful and greatness of fathers and the much deserved day called Father’s Day. I want to wish a Happy Father’s Day to step-fathers and the men who are positive role models to children who don’t have their biological in their lives for whatever reason (s). Let me be clear. The fathers that I know, my brother included, don’t need an annual day to validate them. Their validation comes daily when their children, through rain, sleet, and snow can get up every day to get a hug, a smile, discipline, and a sense of identity from his presence and stand witness to his essence.

Happy Father’s Day!

Sunday, June 08, 2014

Reparations Now!!!

Ah yes.

Reparations for over 300 years of chattel slavery, plus 100 more years of Jim Crow laws. Legalized segregation. Taxation with no representation. Its amazing how so many African Americans today shy away from this subject. I mean. Literally become angry, beligerent, condescending, and sometimes flat out hateful towards a black person who brings it up. I think its just plain ole fear. Fear of buckin the white man's system. I this its fear of success. I think its fear of our own unity. I think African Americans are more afraid of our unifying behind a legitimate cause than white society. This fear came from the psycological conditioning of slavery and JIM CROW. Funny. Homosexuals can unify over some bullshyt called gay rights and were successful making so-called gay rights an actual issue in this country. Furthermore, these people forced this very same government to legally recognize this crap. The Hispanics unified and brought this same government to its knees over the rights of immigrants and forced this government to lay off the immigration reform conversation unless it was in their favor. However, African Americans deserving REPARATIONS for the kidnapping and enslavement of an entire race of people because their skin is black by this government and its European allies is a conversation and a possible struggle NOBODY wants to get involved in. This government and this society will never take Blacks seriously until WE become serious about us.

Sunday, April 06, 2014

Judge Joe Brown Rocks !!!

The people of Memphis and Shelby County need to get up off their asses and stand up for once. Show some pride. Show some self-respect. Support this MAN who wants to help. He does not have to. He wants to. Judge Joe speaks the damn truth in this video. He shares some history of years of illegal behavior and/or unlawful behavior in the Juvenile Court System. It’s a damn shame that this man has to return to Memphis to show Black Memphis how to legally stand up for themselves. Also, Judge Joe Brown left Memphis in 1999 to do the highly successful and long running "Judge Joe Brown Show."  Did you all know that since Judge Joe left Memphis in 1999, Memphis has had many black male and black female Judges and attorneys in that city in the courts at 201 Poplar as well as in Juvenile Court? Sadly, over the past 15 years NONE of these frightened Negroes EVER stood up to the white supremacist legal system in Memphis that has dogged out black Memphians at alarming rates since Judge Joe left. NONE of the Black attorneys and judges ever stood up publicly or legally for the rights citizens of Memphis pro bono the way Judge Joe Brown did. Why? I will tell you why. Number one. They are only out for themselves. Number two. They are afraid of going through what Judge Joe Brown went through for only four hours. Next, they obvious learned early in their law careers in Memphis about how to join the crooked system and get some crumbs for themselves instead of working together to change the crooked system and gain a whole slice. What's more interesting about all of this is these same black legal minds in Memphis more than likely had their lame asses at the white corporate owned and controlled MLK Civil Rights Museum in downtown Memphis for the commemoration of Dr. King's murder. Anyway, I can go and on about what contributes to the city of Memphis's daily demise. However, the people of Memphis can decide this one without the cowardly black attorneys and judges in my hometown. Judge Joe Brown is running for a very important office in the legal system there in Shelby County, which is Shelby County District Attorney. An office that has been known by ALL who live in the city of Memphis and in the county of Shelby as biased in its treatment of citizens of color, particularly black men and black boys. Who knows? Judge Joe’s presence in the Memphis just may be the light that inspires the many lazy ‘do nothing ass” black politicians, black legal minds, black preachers, and many of the black citizens of Memphis to finally “grow a pair” and become MEN and WOMEN in that city that will finally start to move Memphis in the right direction and equal justice for all will actually become a reality in my beloved hometown. Don’t let this moment pass you by, Memphis!


Sunday, January 05, 2014

2014: The year to take back BLACK!!

2013 is over and a new year is upon us. Look. Let me straight to the point. Last year, we stood in silence as white men were named favorite RnB and favorite Hip Hop males at awards shows. Wait, The Grammys will be coming up later this month so more of them will be given awards that usually go to Black artists. Black artists, the reason your awards were and are being given to white folks is because most of you have chosen to sing and rap about bullshit. You don’t put the work into your artistry like brothaz and sistas did before you back in the day. There are not too many RnB singing blacks today who work as hard as Gladys Knight and Marvin Gaye did back in their day. The only relief seems to come from the neo soul artists like Jill Scott, Chrisette Michelle, Ledisi, Eric Benet and Maxwell. The RnB singers haven’t done jack! Wait, I can’t forget my man, Avant. In 2014, you all need to step your game up. Rappers stop using Nigger in your lyrics. Rap more about what’s going on politically and racially in your community. This is what the new white rappers talk about, hence, why they were given all of the hip hop awards for favorite hip hop artists in 2013. The white rappers never use the word Nigger in their raps and they out rapped all of you last year.  Blacks rappers, return to hip hop and regain your thrown as the originators of hip hop and real MC-ing!

Next, black females need to reclaim their femininity in 2014. All of this hardness is not attractive. Enough with the mean faces in public. Enough with the foul mouth language. Enough with the weaves. Enough with the hair hats. Enough with the damn tattoos! Enough with the booty implants. Enough with the thickness, fat-ness and obesity. LOSE WEIGHT God-dammit! I don’t want to hear that crap about how you are fine and ok with your BIG self. That’s a damn lie! Start dieting and exercising not now, but RIGHT NOW! Enough with having all of these damn children with no husband! You were created by God as the very first image of womanhood and beauty for the world to idolize. Now, most black females today look, talk, and act like husky, thuggish men in drag! It’s time for a major organic make over ladies. Enough with the supporting of reality shows where Black women are acting a damn fool. Enough! It time for the Black woman return to her thrown as the actual queen of the university. You can’t do this until you; yourself recognize that there is a problem. Finally, return to reading the cultural books again like sistaz used to do in large numbers back in the 1990s when the poetry scene was hot.

Finally, Men, it’s time to take back black! Men, (myself included) we need to stop the lying, the cheating, and sleeping with whores and tramps if your goal is to actually connect with a sista who is serious about being in a relation with you. Pull your pants up DAMMIT! Stop sticking your penis inside a female without a condom and then turn around and bitch and cry about the child support system kicking your ass. Even though she may have given you permission to hit it raw, if she is not your wife, DON’T do it dumbass! I always speak up for Black men, but when many of us are doing stupid things and acting like hooligans, it makes it hard for me to stand up for the humanity and existence of Black men. The black man in his original state is the standard for masculinity and manhood. Hence, why these white boys like Justin Beiber and Justin Timberlake try to copy our look, our sound, and most certainly our African swag! Of course, often imitated but never duplicated.
In order for the Black community to take back our Blackness, we have to work together. We have to start being honest with each other about our true feelings. We have to start loving on each other again. We have to apologize to each and make amends for any ugly behavior we have shown towards each other and start fresh in this New Year. I want to propose that everyone who reads this article begin having conversational “get togethers” with black men and black women in the city where you live. I mean really get together complete with food, drink, light music in a warm and safe environment where a conversation about what we can do to take back our blackness in 2014. Don’t be afraid to tell the truth in these conversations. We are talking out of love and concern. If anyone in the city of Memphis and in Dallas/Fort Worth area would like to into invite me to one of these get together conversations just me know. I would love to participate. I am approaching 2014 with high hopes and high energy. While everyone is hosting conversations, I will be working through my newly formed non-profit organization, A Call For Healing, INC. to do more by way of mental health as it relates to our young men and women. So, WE ALL have our assignments. Ok. Together on the count of three….1,2,3 TAKE BACK BLACK!