Sunday, June 15, 2014
Happy Father's Day! 2014
Happy Father’s Day! 2014
The annual father’s day wishes are being shared by all those who choose to recognize the men in the world who have been fathers in the lives of their children. I want to send out a special Happy Father’s Day to my, brother, Eric Rivers. You know. I have watched him for the past 18 and a half years not just be a father, but a PRESENT father in his children’s lives and “By Any Means Necessary.” So, should I decide to ever become someone’s biological father, I will have a pretty good source of examples to pull from whenever I may need it. I wish that a lot of men could follow his example of “saying there” even when it gets tough. “Staying there” even when you may feel that you can’t do it anymore for whatever reason. My brother understood that when he decided to participate in the impregnation of his then girlfriend and now wife of many years, THAT HE WAS GOING TO BE THERE.
In the last couple of days, I have been checking out the various stories on Facebook that have been attempting to minimize the importance of fathers in this country, most specifically Black fathers. There is a Mahogany greetings card created and being distributed by Hallmark that is floating round on the internet that says, “For You Mom. Happy Father’s Day.” I guess this is an effort to reach out to the single mothers. Hmm, I thought this is why we have Mother’s Day. Mahogany Cards is the African American division of the Hallmark Cards company. This means that Hallmark has gotten in on the practice of celebrating illness of black single motherhood and the same time making a profit from this purposefully designed system of destroying the black family. Please, let me know if you were in WalMart, Walgreens, or Kroger today buying a Father’s Day card and you noticed a greetings card that was not a Mahogany card dedicated to single white, Asian, or Hispanic women.
The saddest part about this whole thing is that a lot of Black single mothers today who were never MARRIED to anybody when they got pregnant and gave birth to any child they have, have the audacity to believe that they are special. They actually agree with Mahogany dedicating Father’s Day cards to them on a day that was not designed for them. Father’s Day is for men who have children. Father’s Day is gender specific, just like Mother’s Day. When was the last time you heard of any man of any race tout themselves as being father and mother to their children? However, I am happy to share that a lot of sane women have been putting these insane, ego driven, attention starved women in their proper place in regards to this issue.
Is it me? Or does Father’s Day seem to not possess the same fanfare as Mother’s Day? I have noticed this trend (agenda) in America. Fathers are very needed in the households to add emotional and mental balance in children. If the man is not in the household, he still needs to be in the child’s life if he is a man who is trying to be in the child’s life. I never had a father in my house growing up, or in my life. However, I was fortunate enough to see images of father figures growing up. Even if Father’s Day does become a day that is celebrated by society, it will not take away from the importance of having a father in the child’s life. Divorced ladies, I get it. Many of you have been rearing children alone after the divorce because the husband decided that since you and he are divorced, he and the children are divorced and he moves on without all of you. I think that’s horrible. I will never understand how any man could leave their child because he and the mother (wife) are done with the marriage or relationship. It is almost non-human in nature.
Finally, I know that there are a lot of good black men who are in the lives of their children. Recent statistics point to this fact. As a matter of fact, these same statistics point to the reality that black men are more active in the lives of their children than men of other race and ethnicities. http://www.policymic.com/articles/90965/6-actual-facts-shatter-the-biggest-stereotypes-of-black-fathers I am happy that I am a person who has never been one who could be herded like sheep when it comes to the lies and stereotypes that other people place on the backs of black men. However, I am not saying that I am not aware of the large number of men who volunteer to leave after he has laid his seed in the female he just had sex with that night. This behavior is cause for another blog post. However, tonight I want to focus on the wonderful and greatness of fathers and the much deserved day called Father’s Day. I want to wish a Happy Father’s Day to step-fathers and the men who are positive role models to children who don’t have their biological in their lives for whatever reason (s). Let me be clear. The fathers that I know, my brother included, don’t need an annual day to validate them. Their validation comes daily when their children, through rain, sleet, and snow can get up every day to get a hug, a smile, discipline, and a sense of identity from his presence and stand witness to his essence.
Happy Father’s Day!